If someone were to ask you the three most important words in your life, what would it be? 
For myself, I used to for the longest time treasure the three words "I love you". I either gave or received these three words. It was my source of happiness and it gave me motivation to live. 

Yet it dawned on me one day that these were just words. They were not only overrated, specifically they were superficial. 

In a person's face, I've said "I love you" but behind him I've been malicious and unkind. When the bad side of me surfaces, I feel the guilt. Yet it is wishful thinking on my part as the damage done is irreversible. 

Thus I choose to live in the present, to abide by the realism of these three words "Pay it forward" 

What I received in my life was evidently what I gave. Not by the words "I love you" but rather through concrete actions. 

In your life, if you feel that you are always misunderstood, try to understand  your opponents first. You may not get it right the first time, but you would be rewarded for trying because somebody would appreciate you and "Pay it forward"